09 April 2015

Reasons To Be Less Hard On Yourself // Part II




Reasons to Be Less Hard On Yourself Part II
(Because these are fun to write. And because a few of you said you need it.) 



1.  Because no matter what you do, or think, or plan for -- life happens. (I mean, still plan, and think, and do...but there's a certain comfort in knowing it's not all up to you anyway.) 

2. Because what registers to you as a star is actually a burn-out. 

3. Because all the good stuff starts as stomach knots and throat lumps. 

4. Because Sylvia Plath said this thing you've also thought: "God, how I ricochet between certainties and doubts."

5. Because: remember all the stuff in your life that happened suddenly? Don't discount the virtue of suddenness. 

6. Because you have all the potential of the universe jam-packed inside of you. Probably more importantly -- so does the person next to you, or the person you critique. Everything shifts when your perspective does. 

7. Because you don't get to see everyone else's first drafts. But they're there. Don't mistake accessibility for transparency.

8. Because there are seasons for taking in, and seasons for pushing out. You have two ears and two eyes for a reason -- use them. 

9. Because you're riddled with imperfections. You're not the first person to screw up, or let someone down, or misrepresent yourself, or feel regret, or hate something about yourself. You're full of weird stuff. So is everyone else. Your whole self is better than a feigned and false half-self. 

10. Because the moon passes through phase after phase, and then recycles, in a mad merry-go-round of change. It accepts change, and maybe just as importantly -- repetition. What a beautiful metaphor for the whole of life. 

7 comments:

  1. these lists are so, so helpful. beautiful words, thank you.

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  2. My favorite:

    7. Because you don't get to see everyone else's first drafts. But they're there. Don't mistake accessibility for transparency.

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  3. Everything really isn't in our control, and things happen suddenly. So just wait and be happy with what you have.

    -M
    The Life of Little Me

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  4. Thankyou so much for this. What a good perspective esp on the "you don't get to see everyone's first drafts". That is so poingnant for my life right now. It's so hard dealing with jealousy when things come so easily to others but we don't see behind the picture to what they've gone through to get where we want to be as well. Good reminder.

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  5. you have such a way with words. thank you for the encouragement.

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